Here we go again. It's time to start looking back at one year, and looking forward to another. So what resolutions should we adopt this year? Should we lose weight, make more money, go green, or simply resolve to not make any resolutions? Honestly does any of it really matter? We all think that ushering in a new year means a new you, but the flaw in that logic is you still have old habits, thoughts, and beliefs that are going to produce old results. So how does one become a new being? How do we get past the past, and once and for all slay the dragon of mediocrity and predictability? The truth is, if you want what you have never had, you have to do what you have never done. That means you'll have to be a little uncomfortable and step beyond complacency. You'll have to accept that you won't have a known outcome because you are performing unknown actions, and we all know how much human beings love the unknown. Here are a few things to consider when deciding how to change your life for good.
1. Know a sickness from a symptom If you have ever watched the Biggest Loser you've seen overweight contestants come on the show to lose weight, but what they find is themselves. They discover why they overeat when they find out what's eating them. The same can be said about any program meant to change destructive behaviors, whether it be hoarding, overeating, or other addictions. Often times our symptoms are the obvious unwanted parts of our life that we declare will be changed in the near year, or the near future. Unfortunately, curing a symptom does not address the sickness, which is the source of our problems. Whether it's low self-esteem, a need to please or compete, coping with the past or doubts for the future, knowing the source of your discontent will lead you to curing the sickness, not the symptoms.
2. Do It For You There was a ridiculous show I saw a while back where former overweight women confronted people from their past that harassed them about their size. These women reunited with their tormentors with new found fit bodies and well earned confidence. Sadly, their bully STILL didn't respect them, some called them names, and most wouldn't give them credit for all their hard work. What these ladies really wanted was approval and acceptance, and when they didn't get it, the weight loss meant nothing. Don't let the opinions of others be your motivation to change, you might be disappointed.
3. Fake It Till You Make It Weather you want to be a millionaire or get married by the end of year, name it and claim it. Visualize your success daily and even feel what it will feel like when you reach your goal. Make it real. Be specific and clear about who you intend to be so that you can be audacious in the pursuit of the new you. You can't kinda sorta be a little something like this or that, you have to know what you want, see it, believe it, and expect it. Start being grateful now for what is to come and talk yourself into achieving exactly what you want.
4. Failure Is Part Of The Process Much like a cookie at 3pm on the first day of a new diet, we all love a good excuse to give up. If you're like me you have an all or nothing mentality. If I said I was going to workout three times a week, and one week I only get in two workouts, then I try to workout four times the next week. Then if I get behind it goes up to five, and the next thing you know I feel overwhelmed, and give up all together. You are going to fail once in a while, and really failure is just an unexpected delay in success. Some days will be better than others, some habits will take more time to create, but always, ALWAYS finish what you started. You have 365 days to get it right, so keep going.
5. Everyday Is A New You January 1st doesn't have to be the first day of the rest of your life. Everyday is a new start to do something great. Think about the fact that each morning begins a day that you have never seen before, and will never see again. Start every day with a fresh new perspective and excitement for the opportunities that await you. If you backslide at 2pm, start again at 3pm. If you skip a workout on Monday, start again on Tuesday. Every minute, every hour, every day is a new opportunity to do something new. You don't have to wait year to year to be better, you can start right now, and again the next day, and the next....
Need more help making changes in your life that stick? Join us on Jan 7th with for a New Year's Workshop: 3 Steps to Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love, with Kristen Baker.